Facebook vs Fidelity:
I read this article today: By Austin Blood, called Social Media Booty Call, published by the Huffington Post, l and I find that I can’t stop thinking about it now. I can never make up my mind about technology at the best of times.
I’ll admit, you won’t find me very often without my phone within hands reach, I have been known to take both my iPad and my iPhone with me if I know I’m going to be somewhere for a while, and at home I alternate between the two and my iMac. I love how easy it is to keep in touch on Facebook, you can catch little snippets of what your 300+ friends are up to in less than a minute! I do find it a little rattling sometimes though when I have to check my email, Facebook, home phone and cell phone voicemail when my clients want to book an appointment with me. Ahhh, the old days of a quick phone call are far behind us.
But that isn’t what got me thinking today. The article by Austin Blood was about how the internet is undoing marriages at an alarming rate, Facebook being up there at number one. I haven’t ever though of Facebook in this way, although I know some of my single girl friends sure do. I see their ever changing profile photos, full hair and make up, sultry poses, sometimes even professionally shot. I never really got that, how on earth you would use that to your advantage in the dating world but I guess I’ve been out of the game for too long. Coming up 10 years to be exact.
I don’t really get the whole internet dating thing, although I’m not knocking it, I know it works for millions of people out there. I personally feel the need to have some real life contact to see if the chemistry is there. If it’s not, then I’m not interested. I don’t like the wide scope of lies made possible when hiding behind a computer. Number one being, are you married?? Never mind the whole I’m dating an axe murdered, or con man. What about Mr Tall Dark n Handsome turning out to be a toad with a good profile pic?
The fact that there are websites set up for the sole purpose of married people meeting up when feeling bored, neglected or sorry for themselves is really beyond me. As Austin points out in his article, it’s so incredibly easy, all the work is taken out of it. You wait til your mate is occupied, log on, click here and there and you don’t even have to explain why you were late coming home from work or ask your buddies for an alibi, well until things get really out of control. Pretty scary stuff.
Call me crazy but why not try and improve the relationship you have? Or get out of it? I can’t really stand the deception, I would rather have it straight up. Luckily for me, so far anyhow, my husband only uses the computer to Skype his family or look up soccer scores. Phew!
And me? Honestly can’t be bothered. I don’t believe the grass is ever greener on the other side. Relationships have ups and downs, all of them. You alternate between having a fabulous connection and wanting to strangle each other. That’s just life. Call me old fashioned but I think you are better off sticking with what you have, as long as it is fundamentally healthy and not damaging mentally or physically of course. So I would say, if you are in a decent relationship, back away from the dating sites, it’s just not worth it. Go with fidelity. Try a hobby instead, maybe one you can do together to cut down on the boredom.
That’s my two cents.