Daily Angel Oracle Card, from the Messages From Your Animal Spirit Guides Oracle Card deck, by Stephen D Farmer: Condor
Condor: “You are too enmeshed in the situation, so step back and see the bigger picture before making any decisions or taking action.”
“You have lost perspective here because you either believe there is something that you absolutely need to have happen or else you are simply being too stubborn to let go, step back, and take a fresh look at your circumstances. It is the forest versus the trees dilemma: You are too close to clearly discern the reality of what is actually taking place. So make a practice of detachment. Most people think of this as a cold, sterile way of responding to a situation or person, but nothing is further from the truth. It is far worse to remain so utterly involved and entangled that you lose perspective – and sometimes even your self. This all too familiar pattern stems from the guilty feeling that somehow you are not doing enough unless you completely immerse yourself into the problem or person, continually trying to fix the situation or rescue the individual involved. While this may give you a temporary sense of satisfaction, doing so also creates unhealthy dependencies – yours and others’.
True detachment is objective compassion, a state of mind and heart where you still care very much but are distanced enough so that you are not under the illusion that you can somehow control the situation or person through your participation or intervention. In any situation or conversation, follow these four simple guidelines. First, be 100 percent present and attentive; second, speak your truth (or maintain a dignified silence); third, keep the focus on what is really important and what really matters; and fourth, let go of any attachment to outcome. These four steps will help you to keep your perspective while remaining compassionately involved and detached at the same time. You can still wield your influence by stating your preferences – whether strong or mild – without insisting on getting your own way. Express yourself and see what happens, all the while honoring and respecting others.
Perspective; Vision; Awareness; Death/Rebirth; Independence; Solitude; Inspiration; Creativity; Leadership; Pachamama (“PA-che-Mama,” Mother Earth); Simplicity; Sensitivity; Detoxification.”*
– Stephen D Harper
We Lightworkers and Earth Angels love nothing more than to give someone the benefit of the doubt. We see potential everywhere and heal with love. We are hardest on ourselves and hold the belief that if we just try a little harder, that we can fix anyone or anything, if we just add a little bit more love then everything will be Ok. We can see potential in others that they may never see in this lifetime. We believe in unconditional love. We believe that the stars are going to align and everything will fall into place.
We often put the needs and wants of others in front of our own, steering ourselves away from our dreams in the process. This in turn leaves us feeling empty and sad, wondering what is missing in our lives and why we aren’t living up to our own high expectations, and then, instead of dedicating ourselves to the inner work we need to do in order to set things right, we turn around and try ten, a hundred or a thousand times harder to fix the original person or problem. Sound familiar?
Take a step back and see the bigger picture. What is really going on in your life and what are you trying to fix that is beyond your ability to fix. We cannot fix other people, we can only work on ourselves. It may be time to take all that beautiful loving energy and, instead of draining yourself completely trying to heal another who must heal themselves; aim that love right back in to heal your own wounded heart.
Namaste ~ With so much love.