Daily Angel Oracle Card: Cat, from the Messages From Your Animal Spirit Guides, by Stephen D Farmer
Cat: It is time to strike out on your own and relinquish your overdependency on others.”
“It is so easy to slip into a comfortable dependency with anything or anyone, from simple dependencies that can be healthy and restorative (such as daily exercises) to destructive and hard-core dependencies, such as an addiction. You may find yourself so totally hooked on another person that you lose yourself, always turning to that individual to either make decisions for you or to validate your own. This can apply to organizations and institutions as well.
Those dependencies that you are most familiar with are most likely born out of habit rather than any conscious choice. To make truly autonomous decisions, do not get caught up in the polarities of being dependent or independent. Instead, make those choices from a place where you maintain your own authority and power, and accept 100 percent responsibility for those choices and their consequences. Now is the time to review the people and things upon which you are excessively and habitually dependent: Step back from them, identify the areas where you need to make some adjustments, and act accordingly. Practice setting
Associations: Independence; Autonomy; Curiosity; Courage; Unpredictability; Perceptiveness; Cleverness; Resourcefulness; Intuition; Passion; Sensuality; Playfulness; Adventurousness; Stealth; Charisma; Gracefulness.”*
-Stephen D Farmer
When we don’t trust in ourselves, we often put too much trust in someone else to make our decisions for us. There are many reasons that this can happen; maybe we have made what we consider to be a large mistake in the past and have lost faith in our own decision making capabilities. Maybe we have someone in our life who is over bearing, or who makes a fuss when they don’t get to be in control and we have learned that it is easier to appease them rather than step out on our own. Maybe we had over protective parents who left us feeling that we needed to be protected, that we were not “safe” making out own decisions. Whatever the case may be, it is time to take a close look at who is driving your bus… is it you? Or is it someone else?
It’s hard to be happy and follow your soul path with someone else at the wheel of your life. Every time you make a decision it may be challenged, judged or questioned and you have found that it may just be easier to go with the flow than swim upstream. You have gotten to be an expert on picking your battles and let a lot of stuff go… whether it feels right to you or not. You are pretty good at putting out fires, and you are getting pretty used to compromise.
All that is about to change. It’s time to get really clear on what exactly it is that you want and make a commitment to go after it. No matter who, or what, may be standing in your way. No one can take your power away unless you give it to them. No one is actually holding you back. Ya, it’s true, if you are feeling held back by someone, it is because you are using them as a shield to protect you from change, transformation, success, failure, movement, maybe even happiness.
Take a deep breath and step into your power. You are free.