Daily Angel Oracle Card: A Blessing On Your Boundaries, from The Blessed Be Oracle Card deck, by Lucy Cavendish, artwork by Jane Starr Weils Published by Blue Angel
A Blessing On Your Boundaries: “A blessing on your ability to decide where you end, and where others begin, on what you will do gladly and without regret, and what you cannot be compelled to do, for it would be against your own nature.”
“Within this lifetime, there will be times when you are unsure of what is most important, and what is best for you to do. You will not be sure of why you wish to do something, and when it comes to others, especially others for whom we have strong feelings, it can be a challenge indeed to know what is best to do, and to know why we sometimes feel great misgivings when it comes to offering our time, our love, our money and gifts to another for their use. With this blessing comes a certainty – that in this situation you will now know the difference between what is best for you to do, and what another wants you to do. May you be blessed with the sure ability to say no, quietly and without apology to the boss who asks for too much, to the partner who asks you to put your own needs aside for theirs. May it now be clear to you when a friend fails to listen and reciprocate, and when you give, without being given to in return. May this blessing draw clearly the lines that mark out your own emotional landscape, and make a map of who you are, and where you end, so that you may know when others intrude into your space and mind, your heart and home, without invitation. With this blessing of boundaries, let there be respect and consultation, and a renewed appreciation of your own needs and desires. May this blessing give you the power to close a door, to open a window, to ask for help in return, and to support yourself by beginning to respect and acknowledge what it is you need. And with this blessing, these power you will now have.”
By Lucy Cavendish
The blessing of boundaries comes with a blessing of discernment, and of clarity. It will free us from doing things we think we ‘have to, should, or must,’ particularly if those feelings come from guilt or obligation to another. Yes we have our responsibilities and our duties. Yes we must care for others, but there are some things that we get pushed into through manipulation of our feelings, and these are the situations that we must be aware of now.
If something or someone does not feel right to you, honour that and take the time you need to decide how to proceed. Do not get caught up in what someone else demands of you. You do not have to worry about power struggles when you are empowered, as you are much harder to take advantage of. Standing in your truth and being clear about your own wants and needs, having the courage to speak your truth and not feeling guilty or ashamed of taking the time for self-care is vital to you now.
Set your boundaries, and stick to them.
We teach people how to treat us. If you have compromised your standards in favour of someone else’s, just to make them happy, you must now learn to stand your ground. This is particularly important if you are entering into a new relationship, whether it be friendship, business or romantic. Be clear about your own personal standards and hold true to them. Do not let yourself get caught up in pleasing someone else.
Focus on drawing your personal power back to you.