Daily Angel Oracle Card, from the Psychic Tarot For The Heart Oracle Card deck, by John Holland: Control

Control ~ Keywords: “Master, influence, accept, compassion, patience, confidence.”
“In order to flourish, relationships must be fluid and free rather than overly rigid and controlled by emotional neediness or insecurity. It is important to master your emotions so that they do not rule the relationship. A partnership based  solely on emotions is out of balance and out of control. Self control is the key here. Act from a combination of emotion and intellect, and your relationship will thrive and grow. Be sure that your influence is gentle and loving. This is not the time for domination. This card asks you to accept another person’s uniqueness and and to not require that person to conform to a mold of your choosing just to make you feel more comfortable.

This card also serves as a reminder to come from compassion and understanding rather than anger or frustration. Now is the time for patience, steadiness, adn clear thinking. Apply these qualities to your relationship with others and with yourself. If you are involved with a difficult person or situation, try to look through the other person’s eyes and experience what his or her heart and soul feels. Try to see the situation from another perspective.

With self-control comes confidence. Allow a situation to unfold, and detach yourself from the outcome. Do not try to control it. The end result of self-control and confidence is supreme peace. Take some time to examine how “control” in its many aspects is affecting your relationships.

Affirmation:

I control my emotions and embrace peace.

Traditional tarot archetype: Strength.”*

Sometimes we limit ourselves and our own potential by being so focused on trying to change or please someone else, that we get totally side tracked  from focusing on our own desires. We think that we can put our own life on hold while we help someone else realize their potential; however, we don’t seem to realize that we can only be responsible for our own potential. By living to your own full potential, you can inspire others to reach for theirs, by their own choice. If they are not inspired by you reaching for the stars, that is their problem, not yours!

When we stop living our lives to please someone else, and start living “selfishly”, by pursuing our own dreams, we actually form better relationships. How can this be? Because we are not living a life of resentment. You simply can’t live your life to please someone else without suffering resentment. When you live without resentment, you can find joy. If you feel that you are too entrenched in pleasing another to find a way to live for yourself, you must find a way to take baby steps towards the life that your soul yearns for.

Not sure what your soul is yearning for? Start with meditation, journaling and asking for guidance from your angels, guides, ascended masters and the Divine. Once you consciously decide that you are open to receiving this information, it will come to you; first in a whisper, and then in a flood. Meet it with positive anticipation and expectation and see the miracle of your life path open in front of you. Find a way to walk beside those you have in your life, letting the winds of heaven dance between you, and you will find freedom within your relationships. Freedom builds confidence and gives you a chance to walk away from the petty games many of us face.

You deserve unconditional love, but it must start with you unconditionally loving you. When you can love and fully accept yourself, and focus on your heart’s desires, you can follow your path fearlessly. Those who love you will celebrate your journey, and be inspired to start their own journey at your side. Those who don’t needn’t have the power to hold you back.

Namaste

* Psychic Tarot For The Heart Oracle Card deck, by John Holland